September 26, 2011 by David Gillaspie
Veteran readers have a grip on what DG’s B&B is all about.
They find a sports take, an education shake, and kids that shout.
Once in a while they find a post on regional musical theater.
Hold that mouse, I’ll explain.
Married guys do things single guys don’t.
- They turn the lights out on their day way before the 2 a.m. last call at the nearest troll bar.
- They pick up after themselves and anyone else under the same roof.
- They answer every question asked, right or wrong, because they want to be first with the last word.
- They go on dates with their wife.
The last one is where musical theater comes in.
To stay on the same page, just what is musical theater? Think of a yes or no question.
“Is it raining outside?”
Either it’s raining, or it’s not, right? Yes, or no.
Musical theater answers a yes or no question with a song, but not one you’ve ever heard.
If it’s a happy moment in the play, the answer is no, it’s not raining, how could it rain on a heart overflowing with the sunshine and warmth of unexpected love and harmony the earth gives to those in love, who sail the clouds on wings of hope and destiny.
You get it.
If it’s yes, it is raining, and a sad part of the play, dark sheets of water pour from gray clouds that drown all feelings and wash them into a cesspool of despair no one could ever escape from…except the leading actors.
A local production company, Broadway Rose, staged the play ‘I Love You Because’ which tells the story of young love in New York City. Their theater is a converted gym or lunch room left over after the school was rebuilt. You can’t tell what it used to be because it is now thoroughly a theater for stage plays.
The premise of ‘I Love You Because’ goes like this: True love is real not because of money, looks, or status. Love is true because the differences between two people fill in the gaps of their lives. It’s an Odd Couple approach that creates tension and release in the ties that bind.
In this musical, a shirt and tie man falls for a scarf wearing artist; a button-down actuary woman falls for a sloppy minor league womanizer who can’t seem to move on to his next dating adventure after meeting her.
Everyone tries to dump everyone else, but love finds a way.
Say it out loud, “Love finds a way.”
I saw ‘I Love You Because’ a few days after a memorial service for a friend’s mom. She was a teacher, first P.E., then Home Economics. More than a friend’s mom, she was a family friend, a double dating parents sort of friend with my folks.
To say she was the kindest, sweetest lady you’d ever hope to meet ruins the curve for everyone else, but that’s who she was. Her husband, the man she raised five kids with, passed away a few years back. As a couple they defined ‘I Love You Because.’
- She had style and culture that she showed without making you feel less for your lack. He was ex-Navy with a backbone of steel that didn’t bend much.
- She was feminine and graceful with such ease that made you wonder why everyone else wasn’t like her. He was a take-charge, get it done man who didn’t appreciate excuses.
- She created a world of possibility with open arms for those interested in other places and people. His interest began with finding out who you think you are before anything else. If who you thought you were matched what he thought you were, you were on the right track.
I Love You Because?
Because none of us has the final answer even if we get the last word.
Because love isn’t about finding our twin, it’s finding the ying to our yang.
Because we see the sweetness and the sour, the kindness and the harsh, the gentleness and the strength.
Musical theater might not be the first thing that comes to mind when you wake up in the morning, but it echoes in our dreams when we lay loved ones to rest.
When you stand with friends and family to say a last good-bye, remember ‘I Love You Because.’
Just leave out the ‘because’ part and show all the grace and kindness and love you’ve got. That’s who you are, and that’s what you leave behind when you set your final sail.