August 12, 2010 by David Gillaspie
My Dad, on the right, said it like this, “It starts stacking up early and you don’t feel the weight, then when you do it’s usually too late to do much about it. But you still try.”
Those words came from a ‘resting Marine’ since there’s no such thing as a former Marine. Once a Marine, always a Marine. I got straightened out on that one by someone younger than me. After he explained the ‘resting’ part I knew he was mature beyond any number for his age.
The Marine Corps sinks a deep hook into young souls that they carry their entire lives. They are some of the guys you want around for that ‘just in case’ moment.
I’m ex-Army, a former medic guy. I don’t flinch in a pinch but then I’ve never had to run Korean ridges under fire like my Dad. Just reading the citation for his Silver Star gives a high pucker factor
If you can’t find a Marine in a moment of need, look for a wrestler. They share similar characteristics.
The wrestler knows the meaning of GO. Outline the problem, identify the resources, tell them to GO, and they will. You might not get text-book results but you will get more than you asked for.
Do you have any doubts? Here’s why you shouldn’t:
1. Wrestlers are a giving sort. They are givers. They give opponents a beat down. They give themselves a beat down in every practice. They are experienced givers. They will give you a hand when you reach out, though they might drag you by and pick your ankle in the bargain. You’ll want to be on your toes.
2. Wrestlers adapt well. If you have a unique problem needing a solution, you fall right into the wrestling wheelhouse. A wrestler who gets worked by a better guy looks within and without to close the gap. They look for the weak link in the better guy’s attack and find new ways to break it. If they lose in front of the hometown crowd by showing off with a big throw on Senior Night and pin themselves, they pledge revenge.
2a. If your moment of need comes in a less than comfortable environment, call a wrestler. There is no comfort zone in wrestling. They are always tired, always hungry, always thirsty, and always too hot. That’s the game they play. They deny fatigue, hunger, thirst, and heat because their opponent does. If it’s not the current match or practice, it’ll be the next, so they climb the denial ladder as fast as they can to stay a few rungs ahead.
3. Wrestlers don’t over-react. Whatever needs you have that require more attention than you can deal with, you don’t want a solution creating more needs. Save the side effects for the drug industry pills. Who wants nausea, dizziness, and diarrhea for company? No one. A wrestler, whether competing for decades or one practice, has been yanked and pushed and pulled in every direction, sometimes all at once. The more experienced among them read reaction and reaction time then swoop in with the perfect takedown. The less experienced learn quickly to respond in ways that make them less vulnerable. Any of them will help you more than someone from another discipline.
The list goes on and on, and I’ll add to it, but for now think of your problems, the ones that don’t have easy answers. Are you actively working toward solutions? Can you express your progress before asking for help? Or do you automatically push the pathetic button with each new dilemma?
Words of warning: Ask a Marine for help and expect a wake of destruction left for someone else to clean up after they finish. That’s what they do best and it’s a beautiful thing.
Ask a wrestler for help but only after you’ve given a problem your best shot. They want to know you’ve tried, and ready to try again. Everybody fails at something. We all get the dirty end of the stick sometimes.
Show you understand your problem before reaching out to a wrestler, and even then beware of the drag and ankle pick.
That hook is sunk in deep for life too.