The Hindrance of Help


March 31, 2010 by David Gillaspie

What happens if you meet someone you think is helpful, but they’re not.  Or go to a clinic and find out everything that works for you isn’t covered by the clinicians.

Is it you, or them?  The failure of a mentor or coach getting through to you isn’t about you failing.  It’s about getting a better look at improving yourself.  Think about what you need now, and what you need to get to the next level. 

If a coach or clinic makes you a better wrestler, then you’re going to talk it up.  Even if you say nothing, your results will speak for you.  Win or lose, trying new things makes a difference.

In the music world there are two kinds of musicians; one who has played twenty years and one who has played one year twenty times in a row.  You can always tell the difference.

It’s the same in sports, particularly wrestling.  Some people grab the newest thing as the best solution for winning.  Others do the same thing over and over.  Have you seen these guys?  Which one are you?  Which one do you want to be. 

Let your win and loss record be your guide.

Losing matches isn’t a waste of time if you lose while you improve your technique.  It’s not something you want to do in your championship match, but if you’re behind and time is short, you have to do something if the old stuff isn’t working.

Win the right way by doing what the other guy won’t do.  Lose the right way by doing everything you can to win. 

If new tricks help you win, you share them by talking about it, or by example.  The more you win, the more you trust those who helped you.  If you try new things and lose, work on it.  There’s nothing worse than stepping out, shaking hands, and freezing up.

The coach who insists you do what they show you and nothing else is helpful at first.  Especially if the coach is a brand name, or named Brands.  If you lose using their instructions, you will eventually win.  If a coach with little background limits your attack to their style, show respect and work for the win.  As you improve, they improve.

Compete long enough and you’ll make the discovery: you are your own best coach.  You get there by listening; by executing your moves with surgical precision; by improvising instead of panicking when you’re out of position.    

If the intent of sport is to heighten the reality of competition, to raise the stakes of victory or defeat, then it’s up to you to decide how far you want to take it.  Do you want to make the team?  Rule your room?  Do you want to stand on the podium?  Your chances are good if you stay in shape, make weight, and evolve on the mat from scrubbee to scrubber.

Don’t get in your own way.  Trust your coach and teammates.  Win your match and they’ll place you in a new light.  It’ll be too bright at first, but you’ll get used to it.


3 thoughts on “The Hindrance of Help

  1. […] Trev said in The Hindrance Of Help […]

  2. Trev says:

    You are a great author on wrestling. I enjoy reading all of your articles. Please keep up the good work. Not many times do us wrestlers actually get to shine, and you help put our name and image out there. Thank you again

    • David Gillaspie says:

      If I write for a hundred years I’ll never again read this for the first time “You are a great author on wrestling.” I could get a Nobel Prize in Literature and it wouldn’t mean as much as your comment. Of course the $1.4 million dollars would mean something, but only if they mentioned that I’m a great author on wrestling. Thanks Trev. Now remember to use what you know for best results. And keep reading deegeesbb. You might want to subscribe.


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